Sharing sex toys with your partner: Is it okay?

Why Do Some Couples Share Sex Toys?

It’s safe to say that most people think it’s okay to share sex toys with your partner. This is especially the case if you’ve been in a long-term relationship and aren’t changing partners constantly. However, is this really a good practice? That’s what we’re here to find out.


There are multiple reasons why a couple may want to share toys. The first one we want to talk about is convenience. Sex toys can be expensive, so why buy two when you can just share one, right? This seems like a very logical thought process.


Another reason why couples share sex toys is to bond. Many people find sex to be more than just a basic human need. They believe it’s a way of achieving a deeper connection with their partner. There’s nothing wrong with that, but it can be another reason why people share their toys as well. Knowing that your partner has used a toy sexually can be enough to make you reach for it in search of a deeper connection.


Lastly, it’s all about kinks and arousal for our last imaginary group of people. How exciting is it to imagine all kinds of things your partner has done with the toy you’re about to use? We’re sure it’s enough to arouse just about anyone.

The Pros of Sharing

Now, let’s talk about some pros and cons of sharing sex toys. We’ll touch on some of the pros first because we know the number of people that love sharing toys isn’t small. So, we’re sure they’ll be able to relate to what we have to say.


The pros of sharing are plentiful, but they’re usually tied to the aforementioned reasons why people share their sex toys. First, let’s assume you’re not changing partners often. If you are, sharing toys with everyone may not be the best idea for you. But if you and your one partner are sharing it, the first set of things you’re getting out of it is intimacy and excitement. Not to mention, sharing toys can result in better sex, especially if you’re using them while having bedroom fun.

On the other hand, sharing toys can be cost-effective and convenient because you don’t have to spend a fortune building a collection. People especially cling to this if one toy fits both partners and their needs. The effects of sharing toys can be great for a relationship. Why? Because better sex leads to a better life overall.

Risks and Dangers of Sharing Sex Toys

Unfortunately, sharing sex toys isn’t always a fun experience. This is the case no matter how many partners you’re sharing them with. In fact, many people think you shouldn’t be sharing them all. So, what’s the big deal? The safety of all parties using the sex toy may be compromised.


While there is intimacy, excitement, and convenience in sharing your sex toy, there are also dangers. The first thing you should think about is the potential UTIs and STDs you could get from sharing toys. We know what you’re thinking — you and your partner are clean and safe. While that may be the case, improper toy maintenance can harbor bacteria that end up latching onto you and your partner. This is something you can’t control.


It’s logical to say that people don’t recommend sharing toys because it compromises safety. However, it’s not all lost if you really want to share sex toys with your partner. There are ways for you to do it safely and ensure no harm comes to anyone involved. 

Cleaning Procedures Before Sharing Sex Toys

The best thing you can do to ensure safety is to use a condom with your toys. However, that’s yet another inconvenience because it ruins the experience, and condoms aren’t always cheap or easily accessible. So, what can you do instead? Clean your toys properly!


The cleaning procedure will depend on the material of your toy. But if you’ve chosen a body-safe material, the cleaning will look about the same. This is how people usually clean their toys:


  • Use a soft cloth and soapy water (water should be lukewarm and soap mild)
  • Wipe your toy down completely
  • Let it air dry before storing it away in a safe place


Does this process sound easy? It does? That is because it is! If your toys don’t have any electrical parts and can withstand heat, you can submerge them in boiling water for a few minutes. This will ensure a deeper clean, so you can feel safer. Keep in mind that storing your toys is just as essential as cleaning. So, keep them in a dark place, preferably in their original packaging.


Finally, if this doesn’t seem safe enough and you want more, clean your toys before and after each use. We know it may sound like a lot, but it shouldn’t take a lot of effort because the cleaning procedure is simple.

Sharing Our Thoughts

Finally, you can make an informed decision about whether you want to share your toys or not based on the pros and cons. However, having a second opinion is always useful. That’s why we’ll share our thoughts regarding whether you should share your toys or not.


It’s true that there’s a safe way to go about sharing, but it compromises the experience and may be inconvenient. If you’re set on using condoms on your toy all the time, and you don’t mind, then you’re good to go. Otherwise, we wouldn’t recommend sharing. No matter how much you clean your sex toy, you’ll never be able to clean it 100%. Health is always a priority in all things sex and shouldn’t be compromised for any reason.


If you’ve made up your mind about sharing, all you have to do is present this idea to your partner. Then, they’ll be able to decide whether they want to share with you or not. The most important thing is open communication and readiness to accept your partner’s decision. Don’t worry if they reject you. This only opens the door to getting another toy and using them at the same time. That sounds even more exciting if you ask us.